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Friday, January 18, 2008




I needed that. Except louder and deeper. I’m writing this after coming home from my daughter’s baby shower. It was a very nice shower. That’s not what I’m screaming on paper about at all.

This is January of a whole new year. I had such hopes for 2008. Still do. I feel that every day can and should be a new beginning. Right now, I’m warning “it” that so far I’m unimpressed with the demeanor it has shown so far.

Hopefully, by the time you read this our grandson still is able to turn one without becoming a big brother. But with our family’s history of early births you never know. Sarah was opening gifts between contractions, the baby had “dropped” and she hadn’t sleep in several nights. Not due to the baby moving (although “Aidan” is probably going to be a soccer player), but she’s rightfully worried about what’s going on in her life.

My son-in-law came home a few days ago with news no adult wants to give, or have happen, EVER-he was laid off from his underwriting job.

What a way to start a new year: Sarah has been considered “high risk” during this pregnancy. She was laid off from her underwriting job one month after she found out she was pregnant the first time. She hasn’t had the health (or time, with another high risk pregnancy) to find another job. Her husband hasn’t been able to find a stable position since that same faithful date.

Not his fault whatsoever-it’s the real estate industry.

As I sit here, the mother of two adults, I realize I’ll never stop worrying about either’s welfare and happiness. It’s in the genes. My mother still worries about my sister and I. And, let’s face it, even though my dear sister is 6 years younger, we’re not exactly little kids anymore.

Stress is running high in not only Sarah’s home but ours as well. We’re worried about my daughter’s health, the baby’s health, my son-in-law, their finances (actually the lack there of) and their future in general. They even swallowed their pride and went to the welfare office to sign up for subsidies.

Guess what? They cannot qualify for any of them because they make a slight bit more than the maximum in unemployment payments. Then the woman who was helping them suggested this piece of advice: “You know if you weren’t married you’d qualify for all the programs we have to offer”.

Both my daughter and son-in-law couldn’t believe their ears-they were being penalized by being having a family while married!

It seems when bad things happen no one and nothing is spared. In life, things can change in a single breath, in a single moment-may the next one taken in by our daughter is a good deep one. So deep that when she exhales-it’s becomes even stronger. May it be so strong that she’s able to blow away all this present sad luck and not only give birth to a healthy baby but to some better fortune.

Praying for a healthy delivery for your new grandson. One thing I would like to say as an old maternity nurse ---- How about asking the nurses or looking online about their choice of "Aiden" for a name. There are going to be Aidens or Aydens lined up four deep in his kindergarten class. Same for Connor, Taylor, Tyler and a bunch of newly popular names. There is a site online somewhere and you can see what is going on in name registrations.
good suggestion kacey and thank you for your prayers. we're sure hoping he's as okay as the ultrasounds have been saying. It's Sarah that will have a lot of recovery to do w/ all the BP problems and tachacardia.
I hope things work out for the best soon for your daughter, her husband and their growing family. keep us updated on her health and the new baby. prayers for the best going your way.
They say you can only be as happy as your unhappiest child. Parenting is for life--that's for sure.

Things have a way of turning around. I remember in my younger years having days when nothing seemed to go right. My only consolation was knowing that tomorrow brought another day. And more often than not, it did turn out better. I suspect that will happen with your family there. Good things eventually do happen to good people. I believe that.
thank you for your wishes summer, how goes the move and house hunt?
how true Dave, seeing our children in pain or trouble of any kind does take its toll on our own happiness.
You have my outlook-tomorrow is the chance at a whole new day!
Keep the faith, Carine. Tell her to keep thinking positive. I'm hoping that things will work out for the best. Keep us informed about the baby!
thank you Lisa-we are believe you me! Sarah called earlier-no sleep, baby's on her bladder and she sounds really beat. Hubby's filling out more applications.
If it gets worse..they can always move in with you...that's what parents are for. At least they have each other and they are young. Things will work out for the best.
matty, believe me, we are prepared for just that. Only thing we told them was that the house would be very "tight"and due to the age of Sunshine, 2 babies would be all she could handle and they'd have to find other arrangements for the sweet, but 3 very youthful animals.
as you said, that's what family is for.
I hope so for her and your son-in-law too, Carine. Prayers offered..

And of course you can borrow the meme ! Enjoy !
Thanks annie for the wishes and the okay! I actually read that you were encouraging it-but w/ the worry, the vertigo and the distractions, I've become a ditz!
just checking in on Monday the 21st to see how you are / how everyhting is going today, Carine --
I'm actually finally seeing an improvement in the vertigo-thank goodness!
Sarah is tired and angry because she can't control when the birth will take place, so that being said-she's just about where she should be.
Hopefully, we get to see Color Purple tomorrow night, but then again, the debut of Aidan James,would be far more exciting!
Thanks for asking, Annie!

You're in my thoughts and prayers, girlfriend. I guess we mothers have had a pretty rough going lately with our daughters. Make sure you let me know when the big day arrives.
thank you Bev, yes motherhood is a lifetime commitment and not for the faint of heart. How is your baby doing? I've been so busy w/ Sarah and my own little nitpicky health things, I've not been as responsive/involved as I'd like.
Nitpicky? Vertigo is like being on the world's worst rollercoaster , but without the fun of screaming.
how true kacey,
it is improving, but too slow for my wishes.
Sarah is almost 1/2 way there-today's the little guy's first birthday.
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