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Friday, October 26, 2012


What I've Learned

What I’ve Learned


This entire experience of moving from a home I loved has given me some insights on the enormity of what exactly it takes to undertake this task when you’ve lived in a structure for almost a quarter of a century.


What I’ve learned:

1)      It doesn’t help to complain.  No one cares and it doesn’t change a single, solitary thing.  You’re still going to have to move.


2)     No one’s spouse should leave to start a job and leave the other half home by themselves.  It’s lonely, frustrating and yes, rather scary.



3)     Getting the various parts of the move to coincide with the date of the close of escrow is not easy.


4)     Before you open up the estimates from the moving companies-you should be in a sitting position and in a chair with extremely strong arms because you will probably experience a mild coronary.  (After my husband had his, he made me call and rent a U-Haul and try to enlist the assistance of viable family members to load it)



5)     Because of insurance-do not expect any charity to come into your home and pick up donations.  They won’t do it no matter what kind of surgery you’ve had and no matter how unable you are to get it out on the curb or driveway.  ( I tried to plead with about 6 different people and got nowhere)


6)     If you are the remaining spouse who has been left to “close up shop”-the other spouse who has missed your hand surgery and partial recovery really has NO FREAKING idea that when you say you can’t open up his file cabinet, tape a box or change the bed sheets that you really, really mean-YOU CAN’T DO IT.  They only remember what you could partially do before they left.



7)     There is nothing better than realizing that once you know that escrow is at the point where there will be a final day in the house-you no longer have to put away that dish towel on the work island, you really can leave your water glass on the bread board and you’d better eat the remaining salmon burgers in the freezer.


8)     You know that somehow, with your remaining hand-there are a lot of items you will have to put into special Ziploc bags before the termite tent is put on and that you will have to put all your meds/open cat food and make-up in the back of your car and park it in your relative’s driveway until your return several days later.



9)     Calling all the utility servers, the newspaper, the trash company and whomever else has provided you with services throughout the year all need to be notified and that every single one of them will be “busy and need to put you on hold for the next available customer service rep”.


10) And last, you see the light at the end of the proverbial tunnel and it seems to actually be the sun you never expected to see-it’s just in a different place.

Wow. Number 5 surprises me. You should have a moving sale; you'll be swamped with people willing to haul just about anything away, maybe stuff you planned to give away anyway.

You'll be closer to your grandkids, right? I think it's worth every bit of effort then. Just hope you heal quickly.
I wound up posting this on FB and one of our daughter's friend's wants our treadmill. Our son gave us his and it's way newer! Plus, we have that state of the art gym less than 2 miles away! My sister's taking the custom made platform cal king frame and the mattress so we'll have something to sleep on when we come back, she's also taking the foldaway bed. slowly but surely,dave.
and yes, we'll be down the street from all 4 kids and the grandkids!
Carine, you know how many moves we've been through - thankfully, dh handled most of it. We'd decided we would do it together - I can't imagine staying behind while he started a new job in a new state. But our moves were mostly cross-country. And we did lose out on an Irvine opportunity because we weren't willing to split up so there's a price to pay for that decision, too.

I'm so happy you're almost there! It's been quite an ordeal and I wish you much happiness in your new home!
I have no idea how you've both endured the moves you have Kathy. I did see my new home-"in the flesh". You know, even with digital cameras-the glory of black and mucus green walls can't possibly show them off in the right "light".
Painter is there, backsplash chosen, fans purchased, new window coverings ordered and tiny/long windows all frosted. LOL
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