Thursday, January 05, 2012
Have you actually thought about why so many people have problems understanding the basics of life?
Things such as:
1-To lose weight; eat fewer calories that you burn.
2-Don’t spend money you don’t have on things you don’t need.
3-If you take care of what you have, chances are-whatever it is will, in fact, take care of you.
4-When your doctor says you need to exercise; you really need to get up and move your extremities.
5-It’s an unwritten law; every family has to endure at least 1 member that makes life harder than it really needs to be.
Those are just five.
It never fails, when the obvious happens because of any of the above, whatever number-someone is flabbergasted by the outcome.
Let’s explore, shall we?
1-This is a given. Don’t blame the holidays, your unsupportive significant other, and your unfortunate set of genes. You gained weight because you ate more than you should-period. Accept it and either go out and buy a bigger wardrobe or (depending on just how much you’ve padded your body) spend the money on joining a gym, buying a new set of walking/running shoes, signing up with WeightWatchers (Jenny Craig, Nutrisystems, etc.) and do something about it.
2-This one is a bit tricky due to so many people being down-sized out of their jobs, but I’m not talking about this type of debt. I’m talking about a person who knows that every month, come hell or high water, that they only have a certain amount of cash and still spends more than what’s there and wants someone to “bail them out”, since the government won’t.
We have someone like this-they’ve been told they can’t afford to go to the movies more than once a month-and that it needs to be done without the purchase of soda, popcorn and candy. Yet, there it is when the account is checked-4 trips with amenities.
Why is this person surprised when the bailout isn’t to be and then they are chewed out? If you don’t like being in debt-stick to a budget.
3-This goes for cars, appliances, clothing and even relationships. My example-we were visiting someone for a few days and for the umpteenth time saw that they were using their washer as a hamper as well as an appliance. The method of laundry? Stuff it until the door won’t close, fill it with soap and turn it on.
No sorting. Problem-besides the expected white items turning other colors? The dirty and damp items cause the house to smell of mildew (actually reek), plus the washer itself groans. It’s a front loader-it needs to be wiped out at the end of the laundry session and the door should be left open a crack to let it “breathe”. The result-complete surprise when after a year, it broke down.
Don’t blame the machine-as with most situations like this, it’s the operator at fault.
4-For years, I tried to encourage my husband to do regular exercise. I told him it has nothing to do with weight. In the 31-1/2 years we’ve been together, he’s never been anything but perfect weight wise, but last year, he went for a physical and was shocked to hear, “Steve, I’m going to have to treat you for high blood pressure and high cholesterol. I want you to start watching what you eat, only 4-6 ounces of red meat in a week and you need to eat more fruits and vegetables.”
He was shocked! Dumbfounded really. I looked at him and shook my head. “what have I been telling you all these years? How can you be surprised at this?”
I must say though, it’s been a year and he’s still using the treadmill 4-5 times a week. One person on the “lesson learned” list.
5-This is a pesky problem. My feeling is this, instead of giving the person a “buy” and let them continue to embarrass, hurt, take advantage and disgust us-I say we all stand strong and together and do the famous Peter Finch line: I’m mad as hell and I’m not going to take it anymore.
Then let’s give each other the strength and permission to not feel the least bit guilty about making the trouble-causers take responsibility for their lifetime of bad behavior (no matter what their age may be) and learn to live with the mess they’ve created for themselves.
And now, I’m going to munch on some celery while clipping coupons. I deserve it after my 45 minutes on the treadmill and cleaning my stainless steel appliances and ignoring the “problem” who lives 4 miles from my door.